It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together: no one likes discussing finances. It’s a sensitive subject, which is why you need to bring it up before you’re sharing the same space. Many couples just think about the mortgage payment and how to divvy it up each month, but a home requires more money than that. Create a budget together, delineating how you’ll buy furniture, groceries, toiletries, pet food: everything that goes into your daily life.
When you both own colanders and blenders, you need to figure out whose stuff stays and whose gets sold or stored. An easy rule is to give preference to the nicer set of bath towels, or whose ottoman has more sentimental value. You’re also both likely coming from a home where you had some personal space. If that’s especially important to one or both of you, make sure you allocate a room or area that’s yours.
Before sharing a home, all of the time you spent together was intentional. Once you move in together, that changes, and though reading in the same room is its own kind of intimacy, it isn’t the same as the dates you used to plan. Talk about how much quality time you both want—and how much alone time you may need.
Hopefully you’ve noticed how similar or different your approaches to tidiness are before you move in together, but it’s still important to discuss how clean you each expect a space to be. Creating a plan and cleaning schedule in advance can ward off many conflicts in advance.
It’s important to know how you both view your home: Is it a retreat from your social and work worlds, or a communal area for hosting others? You may not think twice about having a friend over for a beer or coffee, but you need to know whether this feels normal or invasive to your partner. Talk about how often you both expect to have company and find a compromise if you have radically different philosophies.
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